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Getting out of our comfort zones

We all love our comfort zones don’t we? I have often taken the anything for an easy life route in my life, and at time that is the right thing to do – you can’t live on the edge all the time after all! Right now, though, we are all out of our comfort zone one way or another. It can be scary, stressful and exhausting (it certainly is for me), but I am still…

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The things we take for granted

If this period in lockdown is teaching us anything (aside from how patient teachers are, right home-schooling parents!?), it is the number of relatively basic things that enrich our lives that we have all taken completely for granted for a very long time. Who would have thought that popping round the corner for some milk and bread would have to become at best a military style operation to accomplish safely and at worst something that…

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You deserve a medal

It would be very hard to overstate how difficult this time is for all of us. Whether we are working in essential services and thus putting ourselves at some risk, or staying at home as we are vulnerable ourselves or care for others that are, there is a lot to think about. It is also almost impossible to escape from the pandemic for long. It is worldwide, so the news and talk from every country…

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Weird or just different?

When I got married last year, the first line of my vows was “We are all a bit weird.” Amazingly, the ceremony still went ahead and we are still married. But we really are all a bit weird, as in we all do things that seem unusual or strange to others. Many autistic people do something known as stimming in one form or another. This is some form of physical habit that we do repeatedly,…

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Patience – difficult but essential

If ever there was a need for patience, now is that time. It is hard. I am deeply impatient most of the time. I am that really annoying person that insists that more checkouts are opened if the queues are long in a shop. I hate it when I phone a business at 9.01 and get a recorded message that they don’t open until 9. And don’t even start me on schools sending home letters…

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Different is the new normal

There is, understandably, much talk of when life will return to normal following the pandemic and lockdown. People are keen to return to the familiar and get on with their lives as they expected them to go. I totally get it. As an autistic person, my routines are hugely important to me. We all take comfort in the familiar. But I’m afraid I have news for you. When we are released from lockdown and the…

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Tired? No problem – be kind to yourself

I think that many of us are really struggling with fatigue at present even though we are staying at home nearly all the time. It never feels right to be tired when you don’t seem to have done a great deal, does it? I am always irritated about how tired I feel after a day spent mostly travelling. I have just sat on a train for hours reading or even napping, yet I arrive home…

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Reasonable adjustments are apparently unreasonable requests

I have been told by a colleague today that I am being unreasonable in suggesting that large open plan offices are not suitable for autistic people and should be reconsidered. Apparently wanting an office environment in which I can function in a vaguely efficient and effective manner is asking too much. Not for the first time, people are keen to talk a good game on diversity but much less enthusiastic about backing those words up…

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Trapped In My Own Head

We are probably all feeling a little trapped at times at the moment. Some will be coping with this better than others. But there are far worse places to be trapped than in our own homes (though of course if you are in danger in your home, please do seek help straight away.) I really don’t mind staying at home. I’ve always been that way inclined. But I do wish I could leave the inside…

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Why Employ Autistic Staff?

Imagine your business had access to a resource that could change the way you do things, that could give you an edge over your competitors and that could provide you with a steady stream of ideas and fresh thinking. But because that resource comes in packaging that you don’t really like the look of, and it needs a special (but not expensive) environment to work properly, you decide to pass. Crazy, right? But you are…

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